Let's talk. Maybe not.

After a lot of boring committee work and trying to wrap my head around a research problem and getting nowhere,  I am feeling burnt out.  So, today's entry is completely non-academic.
I sometimes compare conversations with my acquaintances and friends in North America to those in India.  The contrast is most evident in non-professional conversations, especially those related to issues like marriage.

Most of my colleagues are married and most of them have children.  Many of them married while they were in grad school.  The situation was similar when I was in North America, but it never came in the way of making great friendships.  It seems that in North America, people are very careful about making comments on personal lives of others.  Neither of my friends questioned me why I wasn't married or wasn't dating anyone,(well,  except for amusing questions like "I have heard about arranged marriages in India.  Will you have such a marriage? Do your parents pressurize you?")  Nor did I badger them about their marital lives (obviously!)  

As it turns out, things are slightly different in India.  Some of my colleagues here with spouses are way more candid about their confusion/disapproval of my single status.  It irked me in the beginning.  In fact, the greatest fear I had about returning to India was that of unsolicited advisers interfering in my personal life.  But, as I now realize, if taken in the right spirit, they do make for hilarious conversations.  Here are some examples:

1) Newprof (forgetting that Colleague A is a chain smoker): There are way too many smokers on campus.  I wish they would show a little more concern for their colleagues and not smoke in the tea shops.

    

A: Most people in this part of the country are heavy smokers.  You better get used to it.  You will eventually marry one of them.

    

Newprof (fuming at A's audacity and now remembering that A smokes):  It is better to live alone than marry a fool.

A: I am not a fool. (Then blushes, presumably on remembering that he has a wife)

Newprof: I did not mean you personally (thinking, "Actually, I did") 

End of conversation (as newprof cannot think of any more rejoinders, without further offending A)

2)  A discussion is going on about wedding gift for a soon-to-be married colleague.

B: Hey newprof, when are we getting you a gift?

Newprof: Not any time soon, don't worry.

B: Well, you should hurry up. You are not getting any younger.

Newprof(becomes serious and puts on her argumentative hat): So what?

B: You see, when you fall sick in your old age, you will need someone to care for you.

Newprof: Big deal. A domestic helper can fulfill that need.

B: Nowadays, it is very difficult to find a good maid.

Newprof: Right. Finding a husband is so much easier.

B, catching onto the sarcasm, laughs it off. End of conversation.

According to a mathematician colleague, Newprof's answer to the first question should have been "Wedding is a sufficient condition for giving a gift, but not necessary."  Lesson learnt! 

 Finally, a conversation with an older guy.

3) Newprof goes to the administrative building to sort out some matters.  She meets a senior administrative staff member C, regarding her health insurance.  During the discussion, 

C: Are you married?

    

Newprof: No. (Thinking this is relevant to the health care form)

    

C: Do you have a fiance? (pronounces it as phee-aan-see)

    

Newprof(amused): No.  

    

C: Oh, you see, you are a career woman.  This will cause difficulty in getting married.

    

Newprof is not so amused anymore.  But, as a matter of policy, she never argues with administrative staff. (She has no such reservations while dealing with her academic colleagues) Fortunately, other relevant matters come up in the conversation.

All the above conversations made me very angry while they were going on.  I immediately pledged not to speak to the above people again, unless absolutely necessary.  However, since that is neither possible nor feasible, a better solution is to cleverly deflect the conversation each time the M word comes up! 

Any suggestions/witty rejoinders are welcome.  

In appreciation of students

The very first batch of students of the flagship program at N1 is ready to graduate.  We have just received details about their future plans. About 80% of the students have chosen to pursue PhD in various disciplines.  The remaining 20% are either starting jobs in the industry or are joining well known management institutes in the country.  Among the PhD aspirants, there is approximately a 60:40 divide between those going abroad and those staying back in India.  The abroad-bound are mostly headed to Europe (primarily England, Germany and Switzerland), with a small portion going to North America.

Since I joined only last year and was away for about 5 months, I have not had much interaction with this particular batch.  But, I am very, very proud of them.  Many students in this batch joined this basic sciences program at N1 despite stiff parental opposition and peer pressure in a culture which still places supreme importance to engineering and medicine.  (Being involved in student affairs, I once met the mother of a student here who has been on anti depressants ever since her daughter joined N1 because her bright child will not become an engineer).  Being the first batch, these students have also survived the initial infrastructural rough patch at the institute.  On top of it all, they also did not have any precedent about future career choices.  They had reasons enough to complain.  Yet, not only have they performed well and carved their future paths, many of them have written to faculty members thanking them and saying that joining N1 has been a great experience for them!  

Here's wishing them all the very best! 

Meeting the students

An important task for me this summer is to mentor the eight summer students working with me.  We met last week and planned out activities for the next two months.

The first meeting with the summer students was very interesting.  Out of them 6 are in their second or third year of undergraduate program, while 2 are Master's students.  Depending on their previous course work and interests, I have divided them into four working groups studying four topics.  Our plan is to have biweekly seminars, which all the students are expected to attend.  In the first seminar, I will give a talk on one of the four topics, and in the second meeting in the same week, one student from the working group doing this topic will give another talk on it.  The intention behind getting students to talk is to ensure that they are working regularly and understand the concepts well enough to explain them to an audience.  Since the audience only has me and the other students, they will also not feel intimidated.  Also, although each group is expected to focus on its own topic, this seminar will ensure that they also get a broad understanding of what the other groups are doing. Students will also be working on certain assignments and experiments every week.  

The whole point of the summer program is that the students should learn to work on their own outside a typical classroom atmosphere.  Thus, it does not make sense for me to give standard three-times-a-week lectures.  It is much better that the students work on their own and approach me during my office hours, which have been generously scheduled.  On the other hand, there should be some kind of structure in the program so that I can ensure that the students are working and sufficiently involved. Hence, the biweekly seminars.  

I guess I am essentially designing the program on the lines of VSRP at the Tata Institute, with the modification that students will also give talks and that they are younger than VSRP participants.

The whole plan seems to work fine at the moment.  The students are regularly meeting me during office hours and are taking a lot of interest in their topics.  I am waiting to see how they do their assignments (or if they do them at all) and how they plan their talks.

I am also hoping that the regular seminars will inject some life into our currently very sleepy department as many of the faculty are traveling this summer.  

Non-program interaction with these students has been a lot of fun.  One of these students seriously believes that he is the next Messiah who will revolutionize the way science is taught in the country.  It is great to have dreams and ambitions and I applaud his noble intentions. However, I hope that he will learn in the next two months that one has to know a bit of science before bringing about a science revolution.

Yet another student was hoping to work on a project which is sort of my STEM field's equivalent of splitting the atom! Once again, I do not wish to discourage him. But, he is certainly not working on that here with me.

The other six students have not displayed any abnormal characteristics yet. There is one female student (FS) in this group and the above mentioned two students are trying to "mentor" her (without being invited, of course).  The other day, these two walked into my office to tell me how the reading material prescribed for FS is not appropriate.  I was secretly amused at their "concern", but firmly told them to focus on their own work.  I later thought of some measures to make sure that FS doesn't get stifled under their "care", but it seems that she herself is doing a good job in warding them off.

In conclusion, the summer program is holding up well for now.

Return of the N1ative

This post is slightly belated. Ideally, it should have appeared by the end of last week, but initial ground work and administrative work after rejoining has kept me on my toes. 

I am glad to be back at N1.  

Some of my hopes expressed in a previous post have fructified and some have not. 

Our new campus has made progress, but not as much as I imagined.  At the moment, some extra buildings near the old campus have been acquired for our incoming students this year. 

Things that I am very excited about: 

I have met and chalked out plans with my new PhD student and the summer students (more about this coming soon!).  

The library has got all the books that I had ordered before leaving.  

Three new faculty members are joining my understaffed department very soon and are bringing in research specialities that we very much need.  Some more interesting candidates will be interviewing soon.  

More faculty members are choosing to live inside the campus and are taking nice initiatives to improve life around here.

Non-academically speaking, it is mango season and as per my hopes, I get to eat fresh mangoes everyday from a tree right behind my house. 

All my other food desires, like fresh chapatis and summer veggies from a local farm have been fulfilled too. I have now happily resumed the policy of "eat local, think global".

Things that I am not so excited about: One of my favorite colleagues and my former office mate quit rather unexpectedly while I was away.  I now have a new office mate, who is a very nice person, but no substitute for my previous one.  

My hopes of drinking tea in Kulhar are dashed as the tea shop owner, in a modernization drive, has switched to regular cups, which seem to say, "Coffee, Tea: Love the new me."  

Sigh! everything in life is impermanent and subject to change, sometimes without notice!  

Finally, one of my neighbors, after meeting me remarked that I have become "healthy".  In India, this is a polite way of saying "Hey fatty, lose some weight".  My scales confirm her comment.  Sigh again :(